No matter who you are, we are all confronted by not only our own emotions but the emotions of everyone around us.

This is where Emotional Intelligence comes in but what is EI?

  • EI is our capability as individuals to recognize our own emotions and the emotions of others.
  • It is being able to discern between different feelings and label them appropriately
  • It is about our ability to use emotional information to guide our thinking and our behaviour.
  • It is also about how we manage and/or adjust emotions to adapt to environments or to achieve our goal.

How you as an individual manage these emotions has a significant impact on how other people perceive you, and more importantly how effective you are in your Personal and Professional life in getting things done.

When you work on your emotional intelligence, you can become better equipped to respond to stressful situations around you with a higher level of maturity.

Research by renowned researchers John Mayer, Peter Salovey, and Konstantin Vasily Peterides discovered people who have high emotional intelligence tend to become better leaders and are excellent in everything they set out to accomplish. 

The first person to use the term emotional intelligence was Wayne Payne in his doctoral thesis, A Study of Emotion: Developing Emotional Intelligence.

In his thesis, Payne compared IQ and EQ (emotional intelligence) and determined that EQ was superior because it covers a wide range of capabilities and aspects of our behaviour.

I’m sure you relate to that. How many people do you know that are super intelligent yet unable to stand in their own space?

Studying and developing your emotional intelligence will help you to understand the source and impact of your own emotions better.

It is important to develop your EQ or EI (Emotional Intelligence) because it helps to strengthen your self-awareness. Understanding your EQ will also provide you with the opportunity to understand other peoples behaviour and the underlying reasons why they act the way they do.

Developing your EQ is a skill, that can be learnt.


People with a High EQ are emotionally smart people, they are self-confident, self-aware, creative, and energetic. They are also much more capable of handling stress and knowing how to get along with others. They have a more optimistic approach to their life and don’t fear change.

Emotionally Intelligent people are the people who are successful in both their Personal and Professional Lives. 

So you can see why developing and strengthening your Emotional Intelligence is so important to allow you to move on in your life and to build your Personal Leadership skills

Here is one practice that you can develop to Increase your Emotional Intelligence and one thing that can prevent misunderstanding and enhance your Leadership Skills

Think about how you communicate

Your Non-Verbal Communication is the first form of communication to consider it is often underestimated and underrated. It has a tremendous impact on your emotional intelligence because it reinforces what you are expressing to the other person.

It is possible to convey an emotion or respond to a conversation without saying a single word. Your body language says something about your feelings. The way you position yourself in a room, your gestures, your voice, and your posture reveal your attitude to the people around you. 

Awareness Exercise: How do you carry yourself in meetings, where do you sit or stand how do you sit or stand. Make it a practice to people watch and see what their body language says about them.

Consider a time when you were trying to speak to someone and they continuously looked over your shoulder. How did that make you feel?

Verbal communication is the form of self-expression we use the most. We react to situations around us and communicate our emotions through the words that we speak. If you want others to understand you, then you need to ensure that your verbal communication patterns are clear.

One of the easiest ways that you can develop clear speaking patterns is by speaking more thoughtfully. The more thoughtful you become, the more measured your responses will be, and people will respect you for that.

Listening helps you to communicate better

Listening is a vital Personal Leadership skill that enables you to interpret and respond to conversations. When you don’t develop your listening skills, messages can be easily misunderstood, which can make communication breakdown and the person you are conversing with to become very frustrated.

How do you do that?

Make it a practice to really listen to what someone is saying to you, notice if you are thinking about what you are going to say, are you getting ready to jump in with advice. Are you lining up a similar situation that happened to you so you can tell them about it as soon as they stop for breath?

Give people your full attention and use the words that they use to clarify that you understand what they are relating to you

Considering that adding excellent listening skills to your Personal Leadership skills can enhance your productivity, boost customer satisfaction, and increase the sharing of relevant information, it is crucial that you make a substantial effort to learn this skill.

Please share any Insights below if any, I’d love to know:

What did you notice about your listening skills, Did you find yourself drifting, did you practice repeating back what was said. Did you learn anything about yourself?

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